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MISSING IN ACTION

March 1st 2012 10:41
It may seem that I have been missing in action. Missing from my blog, missing from Facebook, missing from Twitter.
My online persona has taken a dive in presence. But that doesn’t mean I have taken a dive in workload.

I’m frantically working on the Digital Parents Conference. As the Session Co-ordinator I’ve been working with the speakers and moderators on content and structure.

On top of that I’m also the Managing Editor of the Digital Parents Blogazine. It’s a relatively new online magazine. We’re five editions in so you can imagine there’s a lot of admin stuff going on to get it nice and streamlined.

And there’s my family. I have 4 kids. 3 in school and 1 still at home. This year I’ve decided to structure our life a little more. Not because I plan on being an authoritarian non-spontaneous type parent; more because all the best intentions of getting the kids to learn Italian generally fall by the wayside because something always comes up.

The reality is my approach to day-to-day life has changed. It had to. If I only had 2 children I’m sure my approach would be different; simply because there would have been less people to keep track of.

This new structured way of life is less about my kids and more about me. What I want to achieve with my kids. It helps keep me in line. Every Wednesday I get the kids to do some Italian work. I’m not Italian, my husband is. So effectively I’m learning Italian too.

I encourage my kids to learn a musical instrument but on Tuesdays I get all the kids to jam together. Me included. I used to play piano at high school but have hardly touched it since. So this gets me back into my piano playing. Because lets face it, mums always put themselves last.

On Thursday’s we set up a circuit-style course in the backyard.

I recently reviewed a book on the Digital Parents Blogazine called The Conflict by Elisabeth Badinter. In the book, Badinter takes the approach that women are women first and mothers second. And they should not let the responsibility of motherhood railroad them out of the wants and desires they wish for themselves as women.

Identity, achievement, responsibility, and expectation it’s all up for grabs. I wonder though if you can merge motherhood and womanhood? What makes a mother? What makes a woman?

I mean really, learning Italian and re-learning to play the piano again has nothing to do with motherhood. It’s about me, the individual. I’m just clever enough to incorporate it into my role as mother, which I also enjoy.

As the book states, here in Australia women tend to be fluid with the definition of who they are. Stay-at-home mum, work-at-home mum, working mum, part-time working mum, homeschooling mum. Although I get the impression that Badinter is being critical when she says “the balance between these women’s identities is fragile and unstable; the negotiations are never definitely settled. “

I don’t mind that. I like the fluidity of my life. It actually allows me to change all facets of my life without the guilt.

So you haven’t seen me write a blog post in a while or put up a facebook status, but I am here. I am here.
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5 MINUTE CONVERSATIONS

June 14th 2011 02:02
If I overheard one of your conversations, what would it say about you?

Would it be an accurate portrayal of who you really are?

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I love hypotheticals. I threw this one at Mr M last night.

You notice that your stash of condoms has decreased by a few. You wonder who could have taken them? Was it your wife/husband/partner or your 13 year old son or daughter? At this very moment, who do you hope has taken them?

What if your son or daughter was 16? Does it change things?

Or even 18?

Or is the possibility of an extra-marital affair too much to bear?

Who would you hope has taken them?
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MOMENTS, CHOICES AND PEOPLE

October 18th 2007 02:53
This post follows on from myWHO WAS A BIGGER INFLUENCE – PARENTS OR SIBLINGS?

Lilla, Bernadette and Lidia all brought up interesting points about how in fact influences you and what shapes you


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Well….my Mother’s Day started at 6.30am; woken by two very excited children dying to wish me a Happy Mother’s Day.

“Thanks kids…now go away…mummy is trying to sleep


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Sometimes I don’t want the responsibility. Sometimes I wish I could just ignore what’s going on around me and wait for someone else to fix it. But that someone doesn’t exist. I am a parent and part of the job description is being the bigger person, being the responsible one.

I’m writing this post today with ‘stolen moments’. Mr M is working from home today which is a huge help in the mornings; it is fantastic to share the breakfast and school run load


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Newsflash?

A SURVEY of new fathers has confirmed that men's sex lives take a dive during and after their partner's pregnancy.

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FAMILY: CAN'T SHOOT 'EM...

April 10th 2007 04:40
With Easter over, many are recovering from chocolate overdose, I am suffering from family overdose.

I understand that family is very important but mine sometimes drives me nuts


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WILL I ALWAYS BE A BABY?

February 19th 2007 00:31
On my post last week Why Does This Have To Be So Hard? Mishpish (Forgotten Headlines) suggested to me that I was probably having a hard time with my last child attending daycare because he was my “baby”.

I automatically knew what she meant. You see I’m the baby of my family, and I swear I was always treated differently because I was the ‘baby’. No matter how old I got, I was still the baby


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QUOTATIONS ABOUT MEN, BY WOMEN II

January 10th 2007 04:18
Housework's the hardest work in the world.
That's why men won't do it.

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QUOTATIONS ABOUT MEN, BY WOMEN I

January 8th 2007 02:10
A household is much easier to organise without a man in it.

-Mary Berenson
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DO YOU LET YOUR CHILDREN SEE YOU CRY?

December 29th 2006 00:50
Today I cried. It wasn’t the first time and it certainly won’t be the last. My daughter came into my room and saw me upset. She rubbed my shoulder and asked me what was wrong. I didn’t want to worry her and she five after all; she wouldn’t understand. It’s not her place to understand. Not yet.

It’s not the first time my daughter has seen me cry. I try to explain that I’m just a little sad and tired; and a little rest will help me feel better. I try to put into terms she understands; she can empathise with being a little sad and tired. I try to reassure her that in five minutes I will feel better. By I wonder if I should let her see me upset at all


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As mentioned in my last post, today's topic is THINGS YOUR PARENT'S DID IN THE NAME OF "FUN".

Let's define fun. The Macquarie Dictionary defines it as "mirthful sport or diversion; merry amusement; joking; playfulness


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All those old 45's and 33's and some 8 track cartridges. My parents certainly did not have CD’s. They still don’t. Purists. And I can’t say I was ever a fan of their music library. Primarily because their library consists of old folky Greek music that I just don’t get. Doesn’t mean that I was subjected to it by the truckloads (but that’s another topic – things your parents made you because they say it would be fun – I might do that one tomorrow. But I digress.)

I never gave it much thought before – how my parents might feel about the fact that we didn’t share the same musical tastes. I had my own music that I loved to listen to and didn’t see that it was a problem. Though one thing I do remember is that although my parents didn’t listen to Bon Jovi or The Police or Led Zeppelin, they didn’t once tell my siblings and I we were wasting our time listening to this stuff. There was always music in the house and a radio in every room


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