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A couple of weeks ago Jacqueline Maley wrote a post on Daily Life Why Kids Should Be Banned From Art Galleries

Now I’m not about to attack Maley because she in her follow up post she stated that she wrote that post in jest and I’m inclined to give her the benefit of the doubt.

But what Maley did do is tap into something that is a common held belief that children should not be allowed in the domain of adults. Even though they are public places.

We’ve all heard complaints from travelers about children on flights or even my own post about visiting a local bistro.

For as vocal as the ‘children are a nuisance’ brigade is, there is an equally vocal group of people who insist children be treated as people too. You just need to read the comments in Maley blog post.

How did we get here? Are we are a bunch of individuals who don’t want children to encroach our lifestyle or are we a community voicing genuine concerns?

There’s seems to be a distancing of children, a putting them in a corner…over there…away from here sentiment. It’s not enough to choose to be childless but people want to be childless in every facet of their life. And if they have to endure children in public spaces then they are certainly going to have something to say about it. That sounds harsh doesn’t it? And it is. But is there an element of truth in it?

Let’s take Maley’s post on the National Art Gallery as a case study here.

Yes, the Gallery is certainly not a playground and parents need to be mindful of their children’s behaviour in public but children should not be banned from places like art galleries? Do children get bored? Yes. Will you wiz through it faster? Probably. But last time I checked, ‘time spent admiring’ wasn’t a prerequisite to enter a gallery.

And I disagree with Maley’s point that taking kids to the gallery is aspirational not educational. I’m not entirely convinced that these two things are mutually exclusive. I don’t take my kids to galleries, museum, or theatre because I aspire them to become artists anymore than I take them to the movies to become a filmmaker or have them read books to become authors.

I do these things to provide exposure. Exposure is necessary. It’s been accepted that, for example, active kids generally become active adults. Children who read books become adults that read books.

It’s all about habit forming. Why not art, theatre, charity work, history tours? This is the time when kids start to form opinions on art and culture; what resonates and what doesn’t. This is the time to fill in the vacant slots as it were.

Maybe kids won’t appreciate a gallery as much as an adult but that doesn’t mean they don’t store that information in their brains to call on it later in life; like a planted seed. I mean, half the English texts I read during my highschool years were largely useless to me at the time. My Uncle Chris gave me Plato’s The Republic to read when I was 16. That text went over my head. But, it did plant a seed and now I have The Republic on my bookshelf and pick it up to read excerpts.

And yes you can expose kids to a range of things through books but you tell me, doesn’t the Sydney Harbour Bridge look so much better up close and personal? Doesn’t a song sound so much better when you see it performed live than listening to it on CD? Doesn’t seeing Sidney Nolan’s Ned Kelly series impact you more than seeing it in a book? Why would children be any different? Are they not as open to experience as adults?

My eldest son who is one of those kids who gets bored very quickly and will wiz through things but he stopped at the Ned Kelly series. He even asked if he could buy the postcard on our way out. I was genuinely surprised because I thought he wouldn’t be interested. But hey, I was wrong.

Now on our way out a kind gallery worker told us that upstairs there is a kids section where they could create their own art. And so we went. And my children created their own art. So if the curators of the National Art Gallery see the value of having kids visit, so should the rest of us.

And here’s the thing. It doesn’t take just one visit to a gallery, or the theatre to a) appreciate what you are seeing and b) how to behave in certain social spaces.

With every visit children learn how to behave in public spaces. They understand the social rules of being quiet, not running; This is how we learnt to read social cues, it’s how they will learn.

You don’t just suddenly wake up one day and knowing all of society’s unspoken and unwritten rules.

Now I can’t speak for an entire generation but there does seem to be a widely held belief that children today are doing more ‘adult’ type activities than we ever did. Restaurants, overseas travel, galleries, theatre, musicals.

Maybe that’s true. The question is, is it so bad?

I know I didn’t get any exposure to ‘high brow’ type culture because my parents weren’t ‘high brow’ type people. But they are Greek so they did bang on about philosophy and democracy a whole lot. But I did have a desire as a kid to visit museums and study history. And music, oh my goodness, I remember seeing Joseph and the Amazing Technicolour Dreamcoat when I was in primary school. That rocked my world.

But that’s life isn’t it? A coat of many colours? A jumbled mess of experiences that as we get older start sorting out?

Love & stuff
Mrs M
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101 THINGS ABOUT ME

February 12th 2012 02:51
1. I have this blog that I started in 2006 and my new Mum's Word Blog that I also write on..

2. My birthday is on New Year’s Day; it’s a bittersweet day to have a birthday.

3. When I was 2 I would sing Abba’s Mama Mia all the time (so I’m told).

4. When I was 3 I remember playing Abba’s Arrival on our stereo; this is how I occupied my days while my mother worked as a dressmaker.

5. I was an extremely clingy child; no-one other than my mother would do.

6. I am the youngest of 3 children. I have a brother 12 years older and a sister 9 years older than me. According to birth order theory I possess both last born and first-born characteristics.

7. I celebrated my 5th birthday in Greece; my parents home country.

8. I remember watching Grease on the plane. I instantly fell in love with Olivia Newton John. A love affair (read: obsession) that would last the next few years.

9. I started school in 1979; we still had naps as part of our daily routine.

10. As well as counting to 100 after recess.

11. I have family in Adelaide and Melbourne. Is there any Greek person who doesn’t have a relative in Melbourne?

12. I grew up in a cul-de-sac. I learned to ride my bike on the gravel street. Gravel is not your friend when you fall off.

13. My brother gave me a 5-minute swimming lesson at Cronulla beach on how to manage waves when I was 6. Pretty much after that I was on my own.

14. My brother would always play AC/DC in the car on the way to the beach.

15. Hearing Jailbreak as a young kid is a little confronting.

16. My brother also let me watch Mad Max, The Warriors and Risky Business when I was way too young.

17. I am the youngest of pretty much my entire extended family here in Australia. Being the youngest has its good and bad points.

18. I either got lots of attention for being ‘the baby’ or I got dismissed because I was ‘the baby’.

19. My mother let me walk to school by myself when I was 9 years old. My daughter is 10 and I’d love to let her walk to the park on her own but I worry society will look upon me badly if I do.

20. When I was 9 I knew I wanted to be a journalist; I wanted to be Lois Lane.

21. I even created a news desk in my room.

22. I had to share my room with my older sister.

23. I don’t think she was too pleased about it at first.

24. Because of her I am now a Bruce Springsteen fan.

25. My father is very strict and a generally unhappy soul.

26. My sister and I spent a lot of time in our room just to avoid him.

27. My Uncle Chris says it is a privilege to be Greek.

28. I did my level best to reject my Greek heritage; simply so I could stick it to my dad.

29. I overdosed on aspirin when I was 9; deliberately.

30. I also deliberately burnt my wrist on the oven rack.

31. The aspirin overdose was because I was really unhappy.

32. The burnt wrist was to get some attention.

33. My childhood wasn’t always happy. Or my adolescence. Thank God for friends.

34. I got very good at sneaking out my bedroom window.

35. The great irony is a large part of who I am can be attributed to my father; it’s just not the way my father wanted me to turn out.

36. I’m very good at contingency plans; screwing up was not an option with my father.

37. I am stubborn like my father.

38. I hold strong opinions like my father. Not the same opinions though.

39. I was pigeon-toed so my parents sent me to ballet when I was 7.

40. I also did gymnastics.

41. And softball and netball.

42. I don’t like soccer.

43. I follow the Canterbury Bankstown Bulldogs in the NRL. Have done so since I was 5.

44. I learnt to play the piano at 14.

45. I love music. Can never be without it.

46. My itunes library is about 20,000 songs strong (minus a few thousand for doubleups).

47. When I was 15 I had front row tickets to a Bon Jovi show. Jon touched my hand, looked into my eyes and sang “Born to be my baby”.

48. Although I am a HUGE Bon Jovi fan I never had a crush on Jon or any of the other band members. I am all about the music.

49. I did have a crush on Bret Michaels from Poison and Sebastian Bach from Skid Row.

50. I went to a co-ed highschool. I wasn’t distracted by the boys. They were just other people in my class.

51. I misbehaved in my English class in Year 7 & 8. My teacher Mr Bentley wasn’t impressed.

52. I paid for my sins when I had Mr Bentley for 3 Unit English in Year 12.

53. I did have a highschool sweetheart….he broke my heart.

54. In the aftermath of that I went to uni; where I met Mr M.

55. At uni my journalism lecturer really put me off becoming a news journalist.

56. I discovered I liked video editing.

57. I worked at Community Television (Channel 31) on a women’s show titled XX. Made by women for women.

58. Mr M is very good at video editing too. Better than I ever was.

59. Last semester of uni he and I were in the same production group; we spent a lot of time together in a dark editing suite.

60. After uni I toyed with the idea of moving to the UK to join a long list of friends who moved there.

61. Mr M asked me to stay. So I stayed.

62. A HR manager once told me I should marry someone who is smarter than me to keep me interested.

63. My mother told me not to get married before I was 25. Give myself time to grow before I commit to someone else.

64. She also said love wasn’t important when it came to marriage. I beg to differ.

65. I married Mr M when I was 25. He was 22.

66. I was a mother at 27. That was unexpected.

67. My mother was sure I was having a boy. Because she has psychic Greek powers and all that. I had a girl

68. With my second pregnancy she was sure I was having a boy. I did.

69. With my third and fourth pregnancies she refused to give a prediction.

70. Before the kids came along I was a corporate Marketing Executive. And kind of enjoying it.

71. After the kids, I knew I couldn’t go back to that career.

72. The world looked different the day I became a mother. It really looked different.

73. So I took up writing again.

74. I am a bleeding heart lefty.

75. I believe businesses and corporations have social responsibility to the community.

76. I am a critical thinker. Uni taught me that.

77. I am an over-thinker. My family taught me that.

78. I’d like to complete a Master degree in cultural studies or sociology.

79. I don’t think I have the stuff to complete a PhD. Though being a doctor is kind of appealing.

80. I think some of the best-written movies are A Few Good Men, The Big Chill and Love Actually.

81. I am fiercely loyal. But if I think you are being disingenuous I will keep you at arms length.

82. I can curl my tongue into that u-shape. Apparently not everyone can do that. Not sure what that means….if anything.

83. I don’t believe you can raise your child/ren in that perfect bubble so many people try to create. I do believe those parents are well intentioned; there are just too many variables you can’t control.

84. I find it satisfying that some ideals I held when I was 18 still ring true for me 20 years on. It means I got it right the first time.

85. I do my best work between 10pm and 2am.

86. My mother taught me the virtue of being charitable; with my time and my money. My mother taught me lots; even when she wasn’t trying to teach me anything at all.

87. I would happily pick up my family and move to another country.

88. I’m a list maker.

89. If I had to pick which one of my children is most like me it would be my first son Alex.

90. He’s also the one I butt heads with the most.

91. My second son Christian is one of the most caring people I know. I could learn a thing or two from him.

92. My daughter is like her father.

93. My youngest is just over 2 years old. Really early in the morning he climbs into bed with me. It’s an awesome feeling.

94. I do enjoy my own company. Doing things on my own, or being alone doesn’t scare me.

95. If I hadn’t married Mr M I probably would not have watched as many Martin Scorsese films as I have.

96. I drink tea. Never coffee

97. I grind my teeth in my sleep when I’m stressed.

98. I love second hand bookshops.

99. I believe that you should question everything. When I started uni a lecturer said “believe half of what you read and none of what you hear”.

100. Everything I have written here is true.

101. But it’s just not everything.

Love & stuff
Mrs M
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NEWS THIS WEEK 28 NOVEMBER 2011

November 28th 2011 10:28
Peter Savage was murdered in 1995 when a couple of kids who tried to “roll” him for his wallet. When Peter laughed at them and kept walking he was stabbed. Why? Well apparently “if he wasn’t such a dickhead we wouldn’t have stabbed him”, one of he accused said.
Peter Savage had the audacity to stand up for himself and want to keep his wallet.

A teenage British burglar has written a badly-spelt letter to his victim, blaming the householder for the crime and saying he feels no remorse.

The letter then notes a number of “mistakes” the householder made, including leaving curtains and a window open.

Might not be advised to leave an open window but just because there is doesn’t mean it’s an open invitation.

I think we all know who the real dickheads in these stories are. And I’m pretty sure it’s not my fault these two gutless wonders are devoid of any morality. Hope you get what you deserve and a little bit extra just because…. I don’t know…the wind is blowing in a north-easterly direction today. Why not! Seems to be on par with your brand of logic.

In this last week there have been two announcements about getting young people to stay on in school.

The first is getting teen mums to stay on and finish Year 12 or risk having their welfare payments cut off.

The second is to encourage low income families to keep their kids at school until they finish Year 12. According to this article 41% of kids from low income will not finish Year 12 whereas only 22% of kids from wealthy families do not go onto Year 12.

Why are kids in lower income families leaving school? Because it is more expensive to keep teenagers in school than younger children.

But taking this one step further towards university education, family educational levels are stronger influences on the likelihood of higher education participation than family financial circumstances.

Now Mr M and I went to university so according to the newspaper article and the research article my kids have a higher chance of finishing Year 12 and in fact going onto university studies.

Personally I hope they do. I loved university. It taught me to challenge my thinking; I met a greater variety of people than I had in school or any job; and it was bloody fun. And I met Mr M there

But I can’t force my kids to go to uni but I will insist on them finishing Year 12. Year 12 is very different to Year 10. And I don’t think I have every come across anyone who has ever said education was a bad thing.

Some may disagree and feel that Year 10 is sufficient. I’m not here to tell you your business. But this is something I feel very strongly about for my children. They will have to come up with a very compelling reason to leave school at Year 10.

And here’s just one more financial incentive or punishment depending on which way you look at it. Parents failing to ensure their children undergo the full six-stage immunisation risk losing up to $2100 as part of an expanded scheme that replaces a small carrot with a big stick to increase vaccination rates.

Until now parents were paid a $258 “maternity immunization allowance” as a bonus for completing the immunization schedule. But in recent years immunization rates have been dropping and this year reached a seven year low of 83% of 4 year olds immunized; well below the 90% which assures good community wide disease protection.

And what’s the common theme throughout all these stories? Money.

Love & stuff
Mrs M
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NEWS THIS WEEK 1 NOVEMBER 2011

November 1st 2011 03:36
Monday 31 October 2011 saw the 7 billionth baby born.

There is a lot of discussion about the merit of celebrating the 7 billionth member of the world’s population. Environmental impact, social impact, cultural impact, economic impact, agricultural impact, health and medical impact


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NEWS THIS WEEK 24 OCTOBER 2011

October 24th 2011 09:15
The news story this week has to be the tragic loss of Yue Yue.
The 2 year old toddler who was run over twice by two separate trucks and then ignored by 18 passers-by before someone noticed her. What a horrible horrible way for Yue Yue to be treated. The moral and ethic code of China has been a talking point this week but my mind immediately goes to an image I saw a few years ago in Marie Claire of a newborn baby girl laying dead in the gutter and people seen stepping around her.

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NEWS THIS WEEK 17 OCTOBER 2011

October 16th 2011 23:50
My weekly news wrap is back after a few weeks hiatus and the first story is one I heard this morning. New drugs offer hope of life to 150-plus
Now I don’t usually get ranty. I get opinionated, I question, I like to stretch my position on topics but today I’m going to get ranty; simply off the headline.

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I SKIPPED SCHOOL TO SEE SKID ROW

October 12th 2011 01:10
Okay so here’s a naughty story to tell. But it’s one of those that never fails to bring a smile to my face.
Back in 1990 when I was 16 I was so very into Skid Row. And they were going to play a gig at the Hordern Pavillion of which I was a proud ticket holder.

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NEWS THIS WEEK 21 AUGUST 2011

August 21st 2011 04:23
Shall we start this week with Miranda Devine’s exquisitely perceptive analysis of the breakdown of society, namely the London Riots. The fatherless society is to blame people; children with no fathers are doomed to participate in a life of hooliganism.

And why oh why are we talking about Penny Wong having a baby pleads Miranda. In Miranda’s words, “You’d think no politician had ever had a child before


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THINK ABOUT THIS.... EPISODE 2

August 15th 2011 03:12
Episode 2 is here…finally Here are 3 new faces telling us how it is in their household.

I would love to hear what you think of this week’s episode and if there are any topics/questions I should ask about, please let me know it the comments


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NEWS THIS WEEK 14 AUGUST 2011

August 14th 2011 00:40
First up we need to take a moment and think about Daniel Morcombe’s parents.

Daniel went missing in 2003, aged 13, waiting to catch a bus at an unofficial bus stop. One bus drove past and did not stop because it was running behind schedule. When a second bus came past a few minutes later he was gone


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AUGUST IS ORAL HEALTH MONTH

August 10th 2011 11:59
Oral Health Month was created by Colgate Palmolive to raise awareness of the importance of oral and dental health for everyone in the family.

Last month I was invited to a brunch that was held by Colgate announcing that in the lead up to Oral Health Month, Colgate have been voted as the most trusted brand and most trusted Oral Health Brand in Australia. (Reader’s Digest 2011, conducted by McCrindle Research


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THINK ABOUT THIS.... EPISODE 1

July 28th 2011 01:12
Think About This… is a series of video posts that will feature on Mum’s Word. My aim to explore the thoughts and opinions of other parents because we are all in this together (that’s not a High School Musical quote…really).

I would love to read your comments on Think About This


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THE TUNNEL

June 24th 2011 02:42
Mr M has recently released his first feature film The Tunnel. He is co-writer and co-producer of this film. Watch it.

But this process has been long and at times arduous. This move has been floating around for about 3 years. 4 if you include the minute Mr M and his business partner, Mr J, decided they wanted to make a film


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THE TUNNEL

June 24th 2011 02:39
Mr M has recently released his first feature film The Tunnel. He is co-writer and co-producer of this film. Watch it.

But this process has been long and at times arduous. This move has been floating around for about 3 years. 4 if you include the minute Mr M and his business partner, Mr J, decided they wanted to make a film


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