walking contradiction

I AM A WALKING CONTRADICTION

June 8th 2007 04:19

I wonder if I have always been a walking contradiction or did this only become part of my personality since I’ve become a parent? Are any of you walking contraditions?

I want the kids to come to me when there is a problem….I want them to sort it out themselves.

I want lots of kids….I want to have my time and my body back.

I like it when the kids sneak into my bed….I want a full night’s uninterrupted sleep.

I want lots of kids….I want to be able to afford to travel more often.

I love being a stay-at-home mum….I want to go out and work.

I want my kids to learn independence….I want to be involved in their lives…too involved?

I want my kids to ask me questions….I want my kids to not ask so many questions.

I want to be able to go out until 4am…I want to be able to function the next day.

I want to sleep in on weekends….I don’t want to waste family time sleeping.

I want my mind to be free of all these thoughts….then what would I have to think about?

I’m going to get drunk on daytime television. Hope you all have a good weekend.

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Comment by Ruby

June 8th 2007 04:43

The Rubik's Cube

Mrs M, I suppose it's part & parcel of being a parent. But I also think moderation is key. Too much of a good thing is a bad thing right? So a balance of both would be practical, but easier said than done!

Comment by David

June 8th 2007 04:44

Mrs M ...

Being a mother, you'll understand this.

You became a walking contradiction the moment you took your first step.

It's called being a human being.

Don't worry about it. Just accept it. I was a crawling contradiction.

Chaste embraces and none of that other stuff.

David ...

Comment by DuskDevi

June 8th 2007 04:59

Rugby World Cup 2007

I think that admitting ones contradictions makes one an absolute.

No, I don't know what that means either...!

I guess what you are...what all parents are...is a balancing act.

Not just a blog Moderator.
A life one too.

I’m going to get drunk on daytime television.

...not Soap-rah???

Have a great long weekend Mrs M...have fun with that Jedi guy and the paduwans...

Dusk

ps. rain makes you...hmm... thoughtful?pensive?...poetic?

Comment by Ahmed

June 8th 2007 05:13

Video Gamer Kids
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I want the kids to come to me when there is a problem….I want them to sort it out themselves.

No, seriously, you do not want your kids to sort out their own problems, making your kids independant and al is well and good but that will come to pass naturally as they grow older, but if you would rather they be fully independent from the get go, well you probably won't like how they'll grow up.

Comment by Lilla

June 8th 2007 07:14

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Mrs M,

Don't quote me on this because I can't remember where I read it, but some wise fellow said,

'...that the definition of intelligence is the ability to hold two opposing thoughts in your head at the same time and continue to function.'

That's my excuse.*lol*

Have a great weekend,

Lilla ...

Comment by JohnDoe

June 8th 2007 07:37

Film & TV on DVD

Hi Lilla,

The old "do as i say, not as I do" philosophy, I think we all have paradoxes that cancel each other out.

The acknowledgment of them is important to self discovery and enables deeper empathy for others behaviour, a positive thing.

Hope all is well.

Comment by Lilla

June 8th 2007 09:21

From The Home Front
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JohnD,

Things are good, thanks.

Yes, I agree, I'm just a little braindead from completing the dread selection criteria from hell today... to even have one thought, let alone contradicting ones... going to baiste the cells with some merlot *lol*

Be well too.

Lilla ...

*waving to Mrs M*

Comment by Ash

June 8th 2007 09:27

Flashes of memories

Hi Mrs M,

I had to laugh at your post... how true! I`m not a mum but am DEFINITELY a walking contradiction... is it something to do with being a woman maybe??? Men always say we don`t know what we want!

ash

Comment by postmoderncritic

June 8th 2007 11:09

Postmodern Critic
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Dear Mrs M,

I also encourage you to embrace your inner contradictions - they make you who you are!

On a tangent, there's a cK perfume called Contradiction which I love wearing. I like to say "with a spritz of Contradiction, I'm off."

Comment by Lily

June 8th 2007 13:26

Ars Poetica

with sounds of the Faulty Towers' Sybil, 'ohh i know' (repeat many times)

my mum once said to me,

'you know, you CAN love and hate someone at the same time'

i've carried that right across the board..

hope this finds you and the crew well Mrs M,

~Lily

Comment by D. Armenta

June 8th 2007 20:55

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Well, you're a very nice walking contradiction.

(That's a grandmum quote)

Comment by Lilla

June 8th 2007 23:03

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Mrs M,

To further my comment and answer yours JohnD, I still am not sure that contraditction and hypocrisy are one and the same?

Lilla ...

Comment by Wendi

June 8th 2007 23:16

As in all things, I think balance is key. We want our kids to come to us with their problems, but not all the time. Teaching them to come to their own conclusions and solutions is a valuable lesson they really do need to learn. We want them to ask us questions, sure - but we also want to teach them to seek out their own answers so that when we're not there for them, they can still learn and grow. Having them cuddle up to us in bed is a beautiful thing... no one can soothe away nightmares like mamma. At the same time, we don't want them to become overly dependent or spoiled.

I don't think there's anything wrong at all with how you're feeling, and I think every parent shares these feelings at some point or another, at least to a degree. I think it's healthy!

Just my opinions,

W

Comment by Nickoftime's Sanity Corner

June 10th 2007 05:23

Mrs.M,

I think every human being is a walking contradiction, or we wouldn't be human right?

No one has a perfect life...that only happens in the movies...but you can learn to balance things enough so make everyone happy, including yourself...

Being a wife and a mother are two of the hardest jobs on Earth...and your questions, although funny as hell, are basically similar to what everyone asks themselves at least once or twice in their lives....

You can only do the very best you know how and hope things work out the way you want them to...

I struggle everyday with wanting to save the world's wildlife and trying to pay my mortgage at the same time!

LOL

Great post!

Take care,

Nick

Comment by Candice

June 10th 2007 06:34

Hee, hee. Your post made me laugh Mrs M. I don't know that it's just from being a Mum, maybe there are just more things to contradict ourselves about when there are extra people to consider. Maybe it's just part of weighing up in our minds what we do and don't want out of life. What is what we want, what society wants, what family and friends want, what we thought we wanted when we were younger, what we no longer want - working out what's best can be a mind boggling exercise!

I hope the daytime TV managed to sufficiently blank your mind!

Comment by Mrs M

June 10th 2007 13:08

Mum's Word

Hi Ruby,

it's part & parcel of being a parent.

I think you're right...as long as more don't appear

Hi David,

Just being a human being? And we think we're so smart.

Hi Dusk,

rain makes you...hmm... thoughtful?pensive?...poetic?

Bored...think too much?

Not Oprah...Days of our Lives.

Hi Ahmed,

making your kids independant and al is well and good but that will come to pass naturally as they grow older

Maybe...I'm not expert because my kids are still fairly young...but I would think that you need to let kids 'try' things so they can get better at it. Just waiting for them to be ready isn't going to happen...I think.

Hi Lilla,

Love the quote

So I'm one smart bugger...without actually knowing which direction to take

Hi John

self discovery and enables deeper empathy

I like that...that's a cool personality trait to have.

Hi Ash,

Men always say we don`t know what we want!

You make me laugh Ash.

I do know what I want...I want answers

Hi PMC,

with a spritz of Contradiction, I'm off

That's great...what a fantastic way to look at it

Hi Lily,

you know, you CAN love and hate someone at the same time'

That is so true...and it does makes a lot of sense. Thanks Lily.

Hi D,

Thank you matey. That's a great grandma quote.

Hi Wendi,

Yes, yes, yes. You have read my mind. At least I'm not the only one feeling like this...so there is a way through right?

Hi Nick,

I struggle everyday with wanting to save the world's wildlife and trying to pay my mortgage at the same time!

It's a bugger when life gets in the way of what you really want to do.

I'm glad I made you smile with my post. With all my contradictions, I achieved something.

Hi Candice,

What is what we want, what society wants, what family and friends want, what we thought we wanted when we were younger, what we no longer want

Candice you sound as confused as I do.

Nothing blanks my mind like Days of our Lives. I love it.

Thanks everyone for the visit and your comments. They have been a joy to read.

Love & stuff
Mrs M

Comment by Ahmed

June 10th 2007 13:17

Video Gamer Kids
Little Green Foosballs
PolyKicks

Well if you keep giving them advise and helping them they'll gain experience so what might look like problems to them now won't look like problems to them in three years because you taught them how to deal with the problem.